Speaking and Arguing with Children
Anyone who has a child that is now speaking should make sure to understand all the nuances that come with such a verbal relationship. Children are often allowed to do far more than they should because verbal communication between parent and child is lacking. In many cases, children (no matter how immature) are actually capable of reasoning through things with verbal communication. Best of all, you can save a lot of temper tantrums if you can reduce the level of stress in any communication with your child.
Verbal Communication with Children
Even though a child spilling milk might create the urge to scream and yell at them, this actually does very little good when it comes to helping them learn to be more careful. Many parents are quick to allow their own temper and lack of patience come through while lashing out against their children. It is natural to have this happen under stressful conditions, but if you can harness the capabilities to include verbal communication, you will be more effective and provide a better example.
In the example above, a brief and calm explanation to the child regard his or her lack of focus on the milk might actually make a difference in the way they do things next time. Running a childcare in Albuquerque, I have seen examples like this in action many times. Rather than incoherently screaming about the event, reasoning things through with a child is actually quite effective despite what some people might believe. The child is capable of quite exceptional thought and their learning abilities at the age are far superior than any other time in their life.
Also, verbally communicating something with your child is going to help you to avoid showing them the wrong kind of behavior when something doesn’t go your way. It is easy to get stressed and upset, but if you show your children this behavior, there is a good chance they will try to replicate it as well. Make sure you avoid showing them anything like this and they will grow up a lot more verbally capable.
Use Incentives and Reasoning
Trying to reason with children can be difficult especially if they are tired and not willing to be reasonable. Still, you can hone your reasoning skills and even use the right kind of incentives in order to coax them into doing and believing what you want. Simply using violence or other means in order to get them to do things rarely works, which is why it is such a good idea to learn this habit today and not have to worry about it in the future.
Arguing with children is a truly futile effort in many situations. Sometimes, the children are sleepy and just not ready to be reasoned with. When this is the case, you can simply state the truth and let them believe whatever they want. Over time, they will see that you are right and there is nothing more powerful than a child realizing the hard way that their parent or guardian was correct in their assertion.
