Parenting Based on a Child’s Personality
Growing up, we all probably heard the phrase (or have even used the phrase) that “everyone is special.” Despite the cliche-aspects of the phrase, it is true when it comes to children and their personality. People with the same genetic makeup have vastly different temperaments and it is often difficult to reconcile a single parenting style to both. With that in mind, it is important to quickly understand how your child thinks and acts as a result and you will have a far easier time with parenting.
Success and Parenting
Parents spend a great deal of time with their children and nurturing them to be healthy adults, but few use goal setting as a benchmark for their success. Although setting goals when it comes to children seems out of place, there is nothing wrong with having some indicators that you are parenting correctly. One of the most important goals should be to find what is unique about your child and help bring that to the forefront in order to be happier and more productive.
Once you have the goal in place, you can start to do different things in order to parent your child based on personality. Pay particular attention to what works when you are parenting and then go with more of that. Do not try to shake things up or try different approaches if you have a singular approach that works. For the most part, if you have found something that seems to work more often than not, it is an indicator that you have something that is compatible with your child’s personality type. This is a great way to parent as it reduces the friction considerably and it provides better communication. Our preschool teachers try to implement similar approaches with children in their classrooms, as we all know that learning occurs in different ways.
In order to fully learn the personality of your children, it is important to spend time with everyone individually. If you are not spending ample time with your children on an individual basis, it will be difficult to isolate and determine what exactly constitutes their personality. If you are spending enough quality time with each of your offspring there is no reason why they shouldn’t be better off with a personalized form of parenting.
Finally, make sure you are modeling as a good parent based upon your child’s personality. If you are doing that and providing your children with a role model that they will likely follow, there is no reason for you to not have success when parenting. Over time, the child’s personality will provide you with all the information you need in order to develop the right kind of successful model that you want to parent them with.
Children’s Understanding of Parenting
An important factor of parenting for specific child’s personalities is that they should be able to predict consequences of their actions; they need to know their boundaries. At our childcare centers for example, we maintain structure and boundaries for the children. Whether it is a good or bad decision, it is important for there to be a continuity that allows them to know what is going to happen when an event occurs. This understanding is an important way to conduct a relationship.